I think I can! I think I can!
Remember the little engine puffing up the hill chanting encouragement to himself?
Believing that we can reach our goals is probably the highest priority element of success.
When considering something you want to do, or a role you wish to play, do you also think about the obstacles in your way? “I could get a raise if the boss liked me” “I could get an A if I had more time to read the textbook”
Or do you see yourself as having the ability to resolve all of the problems that could be between where you are today and where you are headed?
Psychologists call this dichotomy your locus of control.
Those who see the obstacles without seeing the solutions, as in the first examples, have an external locus of control: people, situations or events outside themselves are perceived to have more to do with success than the person himself has. I call it the “If only syndrome”
People who believe that they are the major factor in their success are said to have an internal locus of control, as in the second example. These folks believe they can overcome roadblocks. I think I can! I know I can!
Clearly, believing that you are able to surmount difficulties leads to greater prospect of achievement.
When you find yourself contemplating all the reasons you might not win, do what those with an internal locus of control do: Ask if there’s really a stumbling block or maybe just a reason to avoid trying. If the impediment is real, look for paths around the obstacles and solutions to the problems. You can find them if you believe you will.
Shifting your locus of control can be done: I’m a prime example of one who decided to escape victimhood and embrace challenges. Scary and uncomfortable at times? Heck yes! Ultimately, believing you control your own destiny is so much more satisfying than letting outside forces take over.
When you don’t think you can, or aren’t sure, call me! I promise to help you on your way. email@example.com or 610-212-6679.