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Dream Big, Take Small Steps, And Make It Count

Who or What Controls Your Future?

I think I can!  I think I can!

Remember the little engine puffing up the hill chanting encouragement to himself?

Little Engine That Could
Little Engine That Could

Believing that we can reach our goals is probably the highest priority element of success.

When considering something you want to do, or a role you wish to play, do you  also think about the obstacles in your way?  “I could get a raise if the boss liked me”  “I could get an A if I had more time to read the textbook”

Or do you see yourself as having the ability to resolve all of the problems that could be between  where you are today and where you are headed?

Psychologists call this dichotomy your locus of control.

Those who see the obstacles without seeing the solutions, as in the first examples,  have an external locus of control:  people, situations or events outside themselves are perceived to have more to do with success than the person himself has.  I call it the “If only syndrome”

People who believe that they are the major factor in their success  are said to have an internal locus of control, as in the second example.  These folks believe they can overcome roadblocks.  I think I can!  I know I can!

Clearly, believing that you are able to surmount difficulties leads to greater prospect of achievement.

When you find yourself contemplating all the reasons you might not win, do what those with an internal locus of control do: Ask if there’s really a stumbling block or maybe just a reason to avoid trying.  If the impediment is real, look for paths around the obstacles and solutions to the problems.  You can find them if you believe you will.

Spinning toward Your Goals
Speeding Toward Your Goals

Shifting your locus of control can be done: I’m a  prime example of one who decided to escape victimhood and embrace challenges.  Scary and uncomfortable at times?  Heck yes! Ultimately, believing you control your own destiny is so much more satisfying than letting outside forces take over.



When you don’t think you can, or aren’t sure, call me!  I promise to help you on your way. stephanie@accessguidance.com or 610-212-6679.


Five Things To Do On Your First Day On The Job

New job, new people, new responsibilities and you’re the new kid on the block.  Try these simple tasks to smooth your way into your new position.

1.If you’re new to the company you will spend a good part of the day in what is called briefcase-and pad“Onboarding”.  You’ll have paperwork to fill out for HR such as your tax forms and , if you’re lucky, pension, health care and stock option forms.  There may be a confidentiality agreement that companies take very seriously.  Make decisions ahead of time so that you can fill out the forms quickly.

2. Someone will show you your work space and introduce you to the people who work around you and to those whose work interfaces with yours.  Get to know your colleagues and how their work affects and is affected by yours.  Will Cynthia need your report before moving on with her project?

3. Its important to make friends among your colleagues.  When you get into your work you can ask them for feedback that will enhance your performance.

4. Take time to observe the company culture.  Even if your title is the same as in another job, this company has different clients, partners, mission, and unspoken rules.  Dress code, speaking up in meetings, questioning decisions, work place rituals,and chains of authority are all unique to each company and even to each department.

5. Start reading books on career success.  A good starting place is Michael Watkins’        First 90 Days.work place graphic

I have more advice for making a great start  if you are in a new job or your first job.  Call or text 610-212-6679 for personal strategizing.